I’m endlessly fascinated by what it means to set boundaries, both from the intent to self-protect, AND from the intent to build healthier, more honest, and more meaningful relationships. My latest musings bring me to several conclusions, one of which is that we set boundaries to build trust. When someone respects a boundary, it makes them – and us – …
Are You Following Your Gut?
I think a lot of us (myself included) truly sit and wait for someone to invite us to our next level. I’ve certainly done this many times. But, the times when I have let very subtle *signs* or calls from the Universe guide me (aka: my gut/instinct telling me softly but firmly, “yes, do it.”), I’ve never let myself down. …
How to Maintain Flexible Boundaries
I often share about why and how you should create and maintain boundaries, and one of the biggest things I have learned over the years is this: Your boundaries don’t need to be brick walls. They can also be screen doors. I know this may seem confusing, so allow me to break it down. I think a lot of people …
How Trusting Yourself Builds Confidence
Don’t be afraid of what may come. Be more afraid of a willingness to tolerate the pain you are choosing. In a reply to a comment on a blog post, I said this to a woman who is in a job that she hates because her boss is not treating her well. Listen, I’m not going to tell you to …
A Letter of Gratitude
Last year around this time I was overwhelmed with gratitude on the eve of my last book release, reflecting on what the last year of my life had been. This year, I’m both reflecting on the last decade and looking ahead to this next one. I’m both calm and confident about what I’ve done and who I’ve become and also …
My Current Anti-Aging Skincare Routine for Acne-Prone Skin
MY CURRENT ANTI-AGING SKINCARE ROUTINE FOR ACNE-PRONE SKIN In this post I’m sharing a behind-the-scenes look at my current anti-aging skincare routine for acne-prone skin. My skincare routine has evolved throughout the years, and continues to change as I experiment with what works best for my skin at any given time. For the past year or so I used Beautycounter’s …
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How Boundaries Create Positive Relationships
It’s a common misconception that someone may set boundaries in order to remove or exclude others from their life. Quite the contrary! THE reason we set boundaries is to keep someone in our lives in a way that allows for a positive relationship. We do this by expressing how we feel (not always, it may depend how close you are …
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What I Love About Confrontation
It’s an unpopular opinion, but I strongly believe that avoiding confrontation does not create more peace in your life. It actually builds resentment, cultivates unhappiness, and *disturbs* your peace. Some mistake an enneagram type 8 (which is me) – the challenger – as people who *enjoy* arguing. I don’t enjoy confrontation for the sake of it. And I certainly do …
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Overcoming Fear of the Unknown
The biggest reason why people tell me they are holding back in their lives? Fear of the unknown. But here’s the thing: you will *never* know what the future holds. The only thing that’s certain is that you have a limited amount of time here in which to live a life that you love. And, in that time, you can …
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The Power of Asking for Help
You may know by now that I *rarely* seek or take advice, but I had an experience recently that almost brought me to the ground. For months I told myself to reach out to Miguel, one of the founders of Siete Foods, for business advice and mentorship. We go back to the beginning, when I was teaching paleo seminars in …