Monday Motivation posts are a time I use for self-reflection, to share relevant goings-on in my life, and to express sentiments that I think might also resonate with some of you. The goal is always to reveal some personal things that I feel are important to be candid about, but more importantly to help you to examine your own life and reactions to it, to see where you may possibly want to make a shift in your own points of view. While my own quest to learn and know more and more about nutrition, biochemistry and physiology are ever-growing, my desire to make a positive impact on more peoples' lives grows exponentially greater at the same time. I hope this post hits home for a lot of you.
If you're an active person, lifting weights and using your muscles, chances are, you've experienced trouble buying pants that fit.
The act of trying on jeans used to REALLY get me down. I mean, to the point where I'd feel defeated, as if something was wrong with me and that I had to just leave the store and not even try to find pants that fit. I had no idea that what I was doing for many, many years was attaching negative emotions to a body part. I was allowing something about my body to make me feel badly about myself. I would NEVER have even noticed this in a friend, nor would I EVER have mentioned it to him or her in a way that would have been negative or that would conjure up the emotions that I'd stir up in myself as a result of my own negative self-talk. It was a bad situation, but I was used to it.
I was used to saying “I hate my thighs.”
“Many negative ideas or attitudes are based on false premises. Sometimes a negative idea about a subject, or a negative attitude toward a person, can be completely reversed with a single piece of new information. you could suddenly learn that an idea you had about yourself or another person was not true. As a result, you could change your thinking in an instant. Be open to this possibility.” – Brian Tracy, Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life.
I was used to attaching negative emotions to a body part, which made very little sense at all. That was until I experienced an EFT session.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a widely practiced system of a psychological acupressure technique used to improve the emotional health of individuals. EFT can easily be done on your own, or with the guidance of a practitioner. The session I had was probably about one hour and took place via Skype with my (now) very good friend John Tsafos. John is a holistic practitioner in NJ (I've written about him before here), and prior to the development of our friendship, he helped me immensely with this BIG issue I was having.
I recall that John had me focus on one negative thought I had about myself during the session. For whatever reason, the idea that I hated my thighs was so overwhelming, that I focused on that. By the end of the session, I was laughing at myself for having thought, in any way, that the size of my thighs had ANYTHING to do with my value as a person. In fact, I was almost in disbelief that I ever thought it mattered at all.
“Negative emotions exist only because we give them life and then keep them alive. We feed them by continually thinking and talking about things that make us angry or unhappy. Fornutately, you can change this situation by applying the Law of Emotion. This law states, “A stronger emotion will dominate and override a weaker emotion, and whichever emotion you concentrate on grows and becomes stronger. What this means is that whatever emotion you dwell upon grows and eventually dominates your thinking in that area. If you withdraw your mental energy from a person or situation that makes you sad or angry by refusing to think about it, the emotion connected with that situation eventually dies away. Like a fire with no fuel, it goes out.” – Brian Tracy, Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life.
Shopping for clothes became a totally different experience. Rather than beating myself up for the pants that didn't fit my larger legs and my smaller waist, I just sort of laughed at how thin the leg openings were and wondered who these women were who were able to wear them. I couldn't even imagine average sized legs fitting into those pants, let alone athletic ones. I started trying on larger sizes and getting the waists tailored. This became routine and I just stopped caring what size my pants were but rather focused on getting something to fit me well.
It's probably been at least five years now since that call and I now, affectionately, refer to myself as Quadzilla. I think John gave me this nickname and I actually think it's funny now. I think of my legs as the work horses of my body, pushing me through workouts, helping me to lift heavy weight and carrying me through life on sturdy and strong limbs.
I LOVE MY THIGHS!
Learn more about EFT in this video: