“People Are Hard to Hate Close Up. Move In.”
(From her newest book, Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone, whose wisdom and insights and research are life-changing. And whose voice is quite soothing, if you're an Audible-type like I am!)
I don't know if this is true abroad, but here in the United States, we have a pervasive sickness in the way people behave towards one another (made worse by social media) that can only be healed by MASSIVE ACCOUNTABILITY.
Part of that accountability is owning that you truly do not know most people who you judge well enough to do so. And that the things you say in comments on social media or anywhere, YOU MUST OWN THEM. They aren't into an abyss. On the other side of your device are OTHER REAL, LIVING, BREATHING PEOPLE. People who, if you had the chance to get to know, you would not likely hate.
And, I have witnessed that 99.9% of people who come at me with hate when I open up and speak the truth, they boomerang right back when they realize that THEIR FEELINGS OF UPSET HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.
That I shared the truth of a situation and it upset them isn't about me. If you are upset when I shine a light on the ugly sides of a shiny social media world, it is your emotional state to own and sort out. I'm simply speaking the truth, how you feel about that is your own business.
So tell me, have you ever been in a situation where you maybe judged someone a little prematurely, before you got to know them a little better? (maybe even me?) What was the outcome?
Let me know in the comments below – I'd love to hear from you!