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If you don’t believe in yourself, who will?

If you don't believe in yourself, who will? | Diane Sanfilippo

Something that comes up often when we are working toward a goal — whether it's starting a business, investing in a new side hustle, or setting out on a new fitness journey — is choosing when to listen to other people's opinions (and when not to). 

If you're not careful, it can be the exact thing to set you back when you need motivation the most.

But at the end of the day, it’s exhausting to always be someone who believes in others more than you believe in yourself.

Trust me when I tell you that YOU CAN do that thing you want to do.

Why do you trust someone who talks down to you? Who tells you you’re not good enough? Who says you can’t? 

Your life will not change for the better if you remain in a space where you believe those who speak to you that way. And what is their life? Do you want their life? Is it fun for them? Do they enjoy it? Are they happy or successful in a meaningful way? I doubt it.

Traditionally, happy and successful people don’t talk down to others, we lift them up. 

We share our stories of how we are not special, we don’t hold any power that you do not, we simply chose and consistently choose to believe that we are capable.

If it’s your own mother or family telling you that you can’t, it’s time to find a new inner circle. Being born into a family doesn’t need to remain your fate. You are a fully formed human with agency over yourself.

Choose anew.

Are you feeling me here? Is this lesson for you? What does choosing anew meant to you? If a friend needs this, share this with her. Tell them you believe in them. You’re rooting for their rise. 

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  1. I have friends in England and Germany. When I mentioned moving to Europe my friend in England spent three-hours telling me why it was impossible to move there. My friend in Germany sent me an e-mail with links to a work website and questions to consider. Although I haven’t heard from my friend in England for months I still correspond with my friends in Germany. I have begun learning German. One of the few things in life I’m certain of is I don’t need help telling myself why something I’d enjoy is impossible. This is something I am already quite an expert in. What I am learning is finding an uplifting, supportive community is proving very challenging. Still, I’d rather be on my own than fill my life with the company of naysayers. This post was a timely reminder. Thank you, Diane.

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